If you're a master of online dating, but want to try dating older women, let LonelyWifeHookups.com show you how to use dating apps to find MILFs with ease.

We live in an age where finding women to date has become much easier than it used to be for generations before us. So what we might take for granted, previous generations can sometimes be overwhelmed by when they're forced to catch up with the times. This is definitely the case for a lot of MILFs out there who are dipping their little old toes into the online dating waters. So if you're looking for MILFs on dating apps, it's not as simple as you might think it is. You don't want to date just any MILF. You're out here for the hottest MILFs around, aren't you?

You need to be much less aggressive than you normally would be with a younger woman who's used to the system. You should also avoid sarcasm and jokes (unless they're incredibly obvious) until you've at least met the MILF you're trying to hookup with, because they can very easily take offense to something that they misconstrue.

So adjust your search settings to include the age range that you're hoping to hookup with, and then also if you're looking for a legitimate MILF by definition, check off the box that says you're fine with dating someone who has kids.

There are of course specialty sites and apps that have been made for young men and MILFs and Cougars to hookup. If you're not having much luck on your typical sites, give those a shot, without question. You're very likely to have good luck finding some incredibly sexy MILFs, who as a bonus, will have been used to dating younger men, since that's why she'll be on that site.

Those are the broad strokes, but here are some more things you might not have thought of, which will help you out a great deal in your online dating app search for MILFs.

While many younger people on dating apps don't bother reading bios until after exchanging a few messages with someone (because who has time for it really?), MILFs are almost always going to want to know more about you than just your pictures, and the intro message that you sent them. So make sure that your dating profile/bio is setup to show that you're interested in dating women their age.

If your profile says that you're looking for casual hookups with women between 21 and 27, you're going to have a hard time convincing her that you're being sincere when you tell her that you're looking to date an older woman like herself.



Make sure that you have lots of interests listed. Some that will be matches with hers (or at least connected tangentially), and that you keep your list of favorite Soundcould rappers or grindcore bands to a minimum. The lists of strange names that either don't look like English, or are offensive to anyone slightly squeamish, is only going to turn them off, and reduce their interest in writing you back, never mind going out with you!



We're used to being a little loose with our grammar when it comes to emails, DMs, and online dating profiles, but write for your audience. Your audience in this case is a middle-aged woman, who doesn't know what it means if you send them an eggplant emoji. She likely isn't used to internet slang or abbreviations, so make sure your bio and messages are well-written, and make you look at least somewhat educated. Unless you look like a young Channing Tatum, these women are not going to be interested in hooking up with someone that they don't think they're going to be able to have an intelligent conversation with.

Age filters are the best development for those of us who want to date MILFs. The ability to filter the thousands of profiles of thirsty young women to only the dignified, but incredibly sexy MILFs that live within 20 miles of our apartment is a godsend. This saves you from having to go out and try and pick up MILFs at square wine bars too.

You're missing out on a bunch of surely wonderful women by not going out into the field to pick up some MILFs in person, but we're a generation that's used to using dating apps at this point, and meeting people IRL is more of a chore than most of us are willing to endure at this point, so move those sliders to your desired age range.

If the youngest woman that you're interested in dating is 48 years old, so that you're certain that menopause has done its work, and a conversation or potential drama surrounding having children isn't a possibility, set it and lock it in! Set the top age that you're interested in, and click "Search".

You're obviously going to be looking at a selection much smaller than you're used to, because there aren't the thousands upon thousands of MILFs on your average dating app. So be sure to not run through your supply right away, and send messages to everyone in your results. These sexy older women aren't going to regenerate the same way as younger singles do.

Many MILFs who're using dating apps, aren't crazy about using them to begin with, so make sure that when you send them a message, it's not going to set off any alarm bells. A lot of older women are already suspicious to begin with when a younger man pays them any attention, so tread carefully. Make sure they know that you're sincere, truly think that she's sexy, and want to get to know her better.

If she replies that she wasn't expecting to be messaged by anyone as young as you, let her know that you're surprised that she isn't getting messages from younger guys all the time. Ask if she's perhaps new to the app. That will let you know how much experience she has with using dating apps, and help you figure out how to approach your messaging further.

You need to keep your messaging friendly, flattering (but not so much that it's off-putting), and never threatening.

Sometimes on dating apps, older women will be mistrusting of the internet, dating apps, and online dating in general. When they're hit on by a younger man, they might think that it's a gag, or that they're being pranked. Remember that a large number of MILFs have had their sons or daughters setup their accounts for them, so that's the level of computer literacy (and distrust) that you might be dealing with. So you might find yourself being rejected. If it's an app that doesn't immediately turn off your ability to communicate with a woman as soon as she says she's not interested, it will be well worth putting the time in to send a follow up message to say that you really wish that she felt differently. Point out things in your profile and hers that you have in common, and let her know that if it's your age that's making her feel uncomfortable, to know that you're much more mature than your age, and you prefer dating more experienced women, because they know what they want. Point out that you understand that questioning whether or not they actually know what they want in this situation is ironic, and you mean no disrespect, but that you really think that you'd hit it off, and would be sad if you didn't at least meet for a coffee.

If she denies you a coffee date, it's time to move on. Some MILFs really aren't interested in dating younger men, so it's not worth pushing them to do something that they don't want to do. Even if you did hit is off, the chances of her wanting to have sex with you are very low because when mothers don't want to date younger men, it's because they don't want to date someone who's close to the age of their children. Respect it, even though you're most likely missing out on some fantastic MILF sex.

Our number one rule when it comes to online dating is to take things offline as quickly as possible, so as to avoid your connection becoming nothing more than a series of slightly amusing, but ultimately boring flirty text messages. This is especially true with MILFs who aren't as comfortable with dating apps as women your own age are. You have to be sure not to come off as pushy, but tell them that you sense that they're not in love with online messaging, and think that talking in person is the only real way to get to know someone. Tell them that you feel that way too, and if they feel comfortable with it, you'd love to take them out for dinner sometime soon. If they want to chat more, let them know that they can just let you know when they want to go out. If it takes too long, move along. You aren't looking for a MILT (Mom You'd Like to Text) after all. If you want to text or e-mail with a mom, you can just send your own mom an e-mail that you're probably overdue on, to check in and see how she's doing.

If you aren't having the luck you expected to have on traditional dating sites, using their age filter, and find that the older women on there aren't as sexy as you were hoping for, then rest easy. Not all is lost, because there are specialty dating sites and apps that are for a more tech-savvy and sexually outgoing MILF than you were probably finding on the other apps. Most of these sites are going to combine MILFs with Cougars, which is slightly different, but not by too much. You're going to have a great time either way.

These sites don't require you to use an age filter really, since younger women aren't anywhere to be found. The site's users aren't interested in their inexperienced asses. They're out looking for older women who bring decades more life and sexual experience to the table/bedroom. You're not going to have to be quite as delicate in your DMs as you were on the other sites either, because there isn't the option for the MILFs to say that they're looking for a distinguished gentleman with gray hair to accompany them on their walks, and perhaps even read poetry to each other. There's no pussyfooting around. The men and women on these sites are looking to hook up. They can obviously go on dates, and have romantic relationships if they really hit it off, but going to the local art house cinema on opening day for a matinee screening of the new My Big Fat Greek Wedding sequel isn't in the cards. MILFs who want that type of companionship should go to their local church, and find a nice man whose wife passed away 15 years ago, but who hasn't been able to date anyone else since.

There's a bit of a fetishistic element to finding MILFs to date on these specialty dating sites and apps, which might be off-putting for some, but consider the alternative. If you weren't having luck on general dating apps and sites, your next stop would have to be a vineyard tour, where you would have to be pretend that you're more interested in wine than you are hooking up with some sexy older ladies. So if you'd rather do that, you can certainly be our guest. We'll try the specialty apps first.